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In 2006 I was falsely accused of child sexual abuse!
Welcome to the story of my personal nightmare that I could have only imagined as the plot to a John Grisham novel…before it actually happened to me!
In November, 2006 my life was immediately and permanently changed in countless ways. Because of the words of one person, I found myself facing multiple first degree felony charges – and the possibility of more than 35 years in prison! After three years of hell – I was one of the few fortunate VICTIMS of false child sexual abuse accusations – and I was ultimately cleared of all charges against me.
The purpose of this website is to share my story – with the hope that I can encourage and inspire the countless others who find themselves in the same situation. With hope, support, a knowledgeable attorney…and a good deal of luck…it IS possible to get some of your life back.
I was inspired to create this site to share my story after spending quite a bit of time on another website about a false accusation. That site (www.falselyaccuseddad.com) had such amazing similarities to my own story that I found it frightening that the same injustice I experienced is not the exception.
I hope everyone gets something out of this website – even if in the future when you hear a story of an accusation like mine on the news you at least think that maybe the accused is actually innocent. The frequency of false accusations – I have learned – is staggering. Prior to being personally accused, I was like everyone else and always just assumed the guilt of those accused based only on the words of one person. I quickly learned that a charge of abuse of a child is the most dangerous charge there is – it is better to be accused of murder. There is no other criminal charge with a higher conviction rate. There is no other criminal charge where you don’t have the right to face your accuser. There is no other criminal charge where there is no need for any physical evidence to get a conviction – it is one person’s word against another – and juries almost always believe children over adults. There is no other criminal charge where the assumption is ALWAYS guilt…even when there is no evidence. You are absolutely guilty until you prove your innocence!
I will not be using any identifying information on this website – as (believe it or not) there could actually be legal actions against ME (the real victim in my case) for things I share here. Because of that risk, some pieces of information that are not relevant to the content of the story (such as my real job, employer, where I live, people’s names, etc.) will be changed to protect the identity of those involved.
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PAGES IN MY STORY:
May 12, 2010 at 1:38 PM
i aiso was acussed of a crime god knows i didnt commint iwas acussed of attemp murder attemp robber and sentence to100 years i did about 4 year my case was over turn by applet court i was given another trial only for the pursuctor to give me an plea for time serve no probation the only reason i took the plea is because i was rape repeatly in prison an my mom was dying of cancer with she died in my arms im mad as hell because because the system knew they had the wrong man i use to believe every thing hear on the news about someone being accused of this and that because it happen to me i hurt ever day and relive all that happen to me were is the justise
May 11, 2010 at 9:39 AM
On the opposite side of the world i am living your nightmare which for me only started 7 months ago, I don’t know where you gain your strength from to continue, I’m struggling BIGTIME!
Stay safe
March 30, 2010 at 5:42 AM
The issue of false rape claims is discussed in detail at: http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com
For a primer:
http://falserapearchives.blogspot.com/2010/01/false-rape-primer.html
Men and Women both are victims of false accusations. It is a civil and human rights issue.
February 28, 2010 at 10:00 PM
My son was married to a woman who talked about a plan she had to falsely accuse her father of molesting her when she found out he had been having an affair. We always just thought she was a mean spirited girl dog; but she kept telling how she and her sister had warned her dad if he ever left her mother, they would take care of him. After 15 years of marriage, my son decided he could take no more of her meanness; so he told her he was leaving. Their 14 years old daughter steps up to the plate and accuses our son of molesting her. It turns out she has Borderline Personality Disorder–it is not borderline anything. She is a full blown sociopath! (Google BPD and see what these people, especially teen girls are like).
To make a very long story short, our son has been locked up for 5 years and 8 months. We had prosecutorial misconduct, ineffective assistance of council–including collusion with the PA, our second attorney had Alzheimer’s Disease. Our family spent our collective life savings, only to have him convicted. We have had one ruling by the Missouri Court of Appeals that deals with esculpatory evidence. When it was remanded back to our county, the new PA dismissed it and said our son should never have been charged in the first place. We continue to fight. Keep us in your prayers.
February 27, 2010 at 6:56 PM
My friend, we all see and watch this on TV all the time and no one really knows what goes on in the back ground. When the show is over we turn the TV off or change the channel and go on with our lives. I know you lived this and suffered through this for a long time. You stayed strong and made it because of friends and family. Well never forget that the same friends and family will always be with you no matter what till the end and that comes from the heart. You turned out stonger that most of us will ever be by going through what you did. I hate to say this, but as we live in the greatest country in the world our judicial system sucks and has for many year. If any one can make a change in it, it will be you because of your strength. As I once said in a letter I would be proud to have a son like you and I mean that.
Bless you my friend
March 13, 2010 at 12:52 PM
Thank you for your support. It means so much!
February 21, 2010 at 6:03 PM
Dear Friend,
It has to take alot of strength to share your story, with everything you have been put through. I know how strong of a person your are and from your story you will remain forever strong. God has truly blessed you my friend. Your faith remained strong throughout the nightmare and your friends are so proud of you.
Best of Luck on your story
February 24, 2010 at 4:24 PM
Thank you. It is ONLY because of the support of friends like you – and my family – that I was able to keep going to wait it out for the result we all knew was right. There were times, as you will read about, that it would have been so much easier just to take a plea offer to get it over with and move on…but due to friends’ encouragement I knew I couldn’t do that and let them down. Thanks again – and I hope you enjoy reading!
February 19, 2010 at 10:27 AM
The courage and strength it takes to share your “nightmare” is so admirable! Most of us would want to put it all behind us and move on, but to relive your personal experience and share your story with others in the hopes that it gives them the courage to not give up speaks of your truly caring character.
February 19, 2010 at 12:37 PM
Thank you, “friend”, for those kind words! I think that even if it helps just one person – the way faslelyaccuseddad.com encouraged me – then all the time it takes (much more than I imagined) is so worth it.
A great idea I was given the other day to help this site give back even more was creating some income off the site by hosting ads, etc – and donating that money to groups that advocate for, and assist others falsely accused and falsely convicted like the ‘False Accusation Team’ and the ‘Innocence Project’ that I have linked here…
Thanks again for your encouragement – and keep reading!
February 17, 2010 at 11:05 AM
I just wanted to thank everyone for the early interest in the site! There were over 150 views in just the first 24 hours! I hope you all subscribe to get my updates (up there in the upper right corner) – and come back often to see what else is new. Take care!
~IWFA